Grieving a Complicated Relationship

by Heather Larson, LSW, CT When it comes to grief, we often think of the loving relationship we had with the person who died, and the deep sadness and longing we feel when they are gone. But what happens when the relationship was not so good? What happens when we don’t feel sad or long …

4 Tips to Deal with ‘Happiness Guilt’

by Janna Benson Kontz, MDiv Grief and guilt often walk hand in hand. When we grieve the death of someone, our minds go to places we wish they wouldn’t travel. We ask ourselves, “Could I have done more? Why didn’t I do more? Why didn’t I tell them I loved them? Did I love them …

Managing Grief During a Pandemic

by Janna Kontz, MDiv During this time of limited contact and connection, grief can accompany the struggles people are experiencing with COVID-19 challenges. Times are uncertain, and with that, come questions: How long will this last? When can we return to normal? Who can I see and who should I not see? Is it safe …

10 Ways to Help a Grieving Friend

by Kriston Wenzel, LBSW, CT We struggle to know what to do when a friend loses a loved one through death. We want to say the right thing and hope in so doing, we’ll be able to “take the pain away.” However, that’s not how grief works. There are no “right words,” and the pain …

When Seasonal Affective Disorder & Grief Coexist

by Stephanie Pritchard, LPC, NCC Surely you have noticed the chill in the air and the turning of leaves from lush green to yellows, oranges, reds and browns. The cooler weather and beautiful fall colors are a sure sign that fall is here and winter will soon follow. This also means that the amount of …

5 Ways to Help Teens Grieve

by Janna Benson Kontz, MDiv The death of a loved one is a difficult and profound lesson for any of us. Now imagine you’re already living in a continual and changing swirl of emotions even before someone you love dies. Teens are in a constant state of change even without something as dramatic and life-altering …

The Mourner’s Guide to Grief

by Janna Benson Kontz, MDiv Your grief is your grief, and it belongs to you alone. This sentiment may seem obvious. But it’s a good reminder as you may encounter many well-meaning friends and family members who want so badly to help you. Others may try to help by telling you how they think your …

How to Manage Grief Around Mother’s Day

Kriston Wenzel, Hospice of the Red River Valley grief specialist, shares tips on how you can manage the grief you may feel around Mother’s Day. Grief on special days can be overwhelming. Honor your grief by allowing yourself to feel the way you need to feel. Give yourself permission to honor the feelings you’re having …

Lean into Your Grief

by Janna Kontz, MDiv Being a grief specialist, it’s pretty easy to identify a whole lot of grief going on right now. You may or may not be grieving the death of a person who is significant to you, but you are grieving all kinds of other things: changes, losses, distances, lack, hunger (for so …